I think that's one reason why we have seen many people experience, not all researchers, but a lot of people experiencing an increase in narcissism in our culture.

If you think about it right now, the emphasis on achievement is really important because what does

achievement mean? Achievement is ostensibly kind of outward manifestation of your accomplishments.

And you're talking about like an art piece. Are you doing it to be the

most perfect artist? Are you creating a sense of an internal expression that is

creative and that you feel compelled to share.

They're really different motivations.

This is holding your own,

a series from Therapist Unsensor that aims to deepen and broaden security when faced with challenging personalities.

Now, here are your co-host, Dr. Ann Kelly and Sue Marriott. series of holding your own. And we are doing a series on building and holding your own

security while in relationships with difficult types of personality traits.

And today we are going to be talking about an element of narcissism.

So we started talking about what messy security looks like, like what's healthy but looks pretty ugly and then last time we talked

about one of the kinds of narcissism which is grandiose narcissism so you can

review either of those if you'd like to if you've missed them.

Well, just to note, the grandiose narcissism, if you haven't had a chance to hear it,

that's what you are more typically familiar with in the media.

That's somebody who tends to hold their defenses in a more arrogant

entitled way. Now those are easy to spot. What's much more difficult to spot

is the other side of the coin from grandiose narcissism. It's called so many different things,

depressed narcissism, covert narcissism, vulnerable narcissism.

Even hyper-vigilant narcissism, I've seen that. And I'll say, you know, it's easy to

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