One of the reasons why we're seeing an issue so much with the dynamics of narcissism is that we value some things

and we might even get in the relationship because we value these certain things.

And to question your own value value what is it that you

actually really value is it somebody's achievement and charisma and power and

production of material or is it actually we value connection and we value

deep trust that's between us not trust that you're not going to have an affair

on me that's not trust trust is that you're going to see me and be sensitive.

So when you get more clear, get clear on what you value,

and you might have to lose what it is you were attracted to.

Because when you want to value that person and even in the

relationship with the narcissist when they're pulling you for achievement, when they're

pulling you for the compliments, you actually can see that more deeply and don't

buy into that because they believe that's their sense of value to you.

So find what you actually value in them because we aren't all narcissistic even if you have

narcissistic as defenses and don't get called into you're so great in the

world and an example be let's say they failed at a

at a performance review you might be tempted to get pulled in but your next

review be fine they're stupid and to to push it over instead say you know what whether you failed or not you're an

amazing man you're an amazing woman allowing failure and love to be connected

and to not be distracted by no you're going to be the best in the world.

I don't care if you're the best in the world.

I value for who you are, not what you can do for me. This is holding your own, a series from Therapist Uncensor that aims to deepen and

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