Hey everybody, if I say challenging personality, who do you think of?

Sometimes I think of myself actually, I can be pretty challenging.

But sometimes these challenges can become pretty severe and we talk a lot on this

podcast about secure relating and secure functioning couples but we

haven't necessarily addressed a whole bunch of the you know when you're with someone that has an empathy

impairment or is a very highly reactive or is just mean as a snake like that happens

how to assess that and what to do about it. So we had

started this as a course and we are transitioning it into a series called Holding Your

Own with Challenging Personalities.

This is the first episode.

It's an experiment.

You know, get off automation and try something new.

That's what we're doing.

We'll see if you guys like it we'll publish

them a little closer together than we normally do so that if you're into it that you

don't have to wait too long in the series we are going to be particularly

pulling out things like, you know, narcissistic, all the different types of narcissism, people who struggle with borderline personality traits, which again, I can do it as well as anybody, and antisocial.

We're going to really look at the unconscious, we're going to do a deep dive, we didn't know that we could do this.

We hadn't thought that we could do it on the

podcast so that's why we had shifted it to the course so we're going to try it this

way we'll see how it goes. The most important thing I want you to hear before

we get started is that our aim is to not pathologize. We aren't like pointing

...