But I think for highly sensitive people, there's often a fear because we tend to have a lot of

history being used, bullied, dismissed, overrun, stepped on by narcissists who are very

confident into cocky, confident into arrogant.

And when I've worked with people over the years, it's helped me. When we see

something outside of ourselves, we can then see it more so inside of ourselves, right? And what I've

seen sensitive person is sensitive person as a pattern is that they're so scared that if they get

confident, they're going to come off and be arrogant. They're going to be obnoxiously over the top

with it, that it really takes, I think, some understanding, some ability to see that and go, wait a

minute. Am I getting in the way of my own self? Am I saying to myself, I'm not allowed to practice

confidence, to move into a confident

state because I'm going to turn into this narcissistic a-hole that hurts people and stomps on people.

Hello, welcome to the show. This is Emotional Badass, where Moxie meets Mindful. I'm your host,

Nikki Eisenhower, life coach and psychotherapist.

And I'm your co-host, Chris Iacono, producer.

And on today's episode, we're discussing... Insecurity versus Confidence.

All right, I'm feeling quite confident today.

I must admit, I'm wearing my very nice cashmere sweater that you bought me last year. It's my favorite sweater. And I'm not wearing my hat because I'm pretty confident in my bald head. You were born with confidence. I think I realized this about you on our very first date. Really? Yes. I'm going to take that as a compliment. I. I thought you were going to say, you were born bald. Well, almost. I mean, what did you make it to 19, 20? Yeah, I had like four days where I had hair in my entire life. I know this is secretly why you wanted to marry me when we met because I have the hair that you lost. Yes. Uh-huh. You do. You had amazing hair. And you had short hair when we met. You had like a kind of like a, I want to call cyberpunk. You had bad bitch hair when we met and I really appreciated it. It wasn't like this. It was short. No, it was my southern humidity pixie. Yes. I've been here, I've grown it out a few

different ways. Yes, yes, yes. I was very impressed with your confidence. And I think it's something

that most people, especially sensitive people, especially if you grew up with immature,

dysfunctional parents, you just kind of don't get a whole lot of confidence coming

out of that situation.

That kind of chaos, not having a stable foundation, seems to pull the confidence rug out

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