Trauma Bond Dating
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 15 March 2023
⏱️ 39 minutes
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Summary
Iyanla welcomes two new callers this week, and listens in as they each look for the answer on how to have healthy relationships given their toxic situations. The first woman is trying to figure out how she can continue having a relationship with a partner who is attracted to substance abuse. The second caller is a woman who is trying to attract better relationships and stop ending up with guys who have mother abandonment issues. Iyanla dives deep into both of the underlying issues, guiding the callers toward how their circumstances all turns back to themselves. She asks them both to pay attention to their bonding patterns in order to find answers. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant
Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins
Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani
Associate Producer: Akiya McKnight
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| 0:00.0 | I amma I had a baby daddy relationship I spent time in a relationship with a Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. One of the things that we want to be mindful of when we are. |
| 0:35.0 | One of the things that we want to be mindful of when we are creating relationships, going into |
| 0:48.2 | relationships, not just romantic relationships, but really friendships, social alliances, is why and how we bond or |
| 1:00.6 | connect with certain people. |
| 1:03.0 | Because all of us have a bonding pattern, |
| 1:07.0 | a pattern that we engage |
| 1:11.0 | when we create relationships. And that bonding pattern more often than not is going to be |
| 1:19.0 | based on what we saw experienced experienced, were called to do in our family of origin. |
| 1:27.0 | Really a very complicated concept, but it's really very active in our lives. |
| 1:37.0 | And one of the things that really underlines most bonding patterns is the belief that we cannot have what we want or we cannot have |
| 1:47.2 | what we want without hard work and so we'll do the hard work and it doesn't work and then we wonder why we can't get what we want. |
| 1:58.0 | It's because the bonding pattern is to attract people that cannot give you what you want. |
| 2:05.0 | Interesting. |
| 2:07.0 | So my guest today is smack dab in the middle of her bonding batter, but the good news is it's early enough for |
| 2:18.0 | her to fix it, change it, or make another choice. Let's hear what she has to say. |
| 2:25.0 | Welcome to the Artsbot Beloved and what is the relationship challenge issue dilemma that you're bringing to the table today? |
| 2:36.0 | First of all, I want to say thank you for accepting my quote. |
| 2:40.0 | I am recently dating somebody and I was waiting for him to come home from work and I got a phone |
| 2:47.7 | call to pick him up from the police. He got arrested for a DUI and he's probably going to lose his job and he definitely needs to go to rehab |
| 2:57.6 | But he is I guess going in a different spiral and I want to be there to support him but I don't want to allow myself to be |
| 3:07.4 | sucked into all of it or I don't know that I necessarily believe that he's ready to stop drinking. |
| 3:14.0 | How long have you been dating? |
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