The Wild Hoo-Haa
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 22 March 2023
⏱️ 59 minutes
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Summary
One caller is left wondering whether or not he should leave his marriage in order to gain a clear peace of mind. He feels selfish for wanting to separate from his partner that he currently has four children with. Another caller wants her partner to value and appreciate her. But should she keep her family together, or leave the rocky and abusive relationship, knowing that he has cheated on her? Iyanla offers insight to them both: be willing to forgive oneself, and be careful not to be lured back in by urges, desires, and the good ol’ “Hoo-Haa”! Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant
Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins
Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani
Associate Producer: Akiya McKnight
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| 0:00.0 | I amma I had a baby daddy relationship I spent time in a relationship with a Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with IHeart Radio. Sometimes the question in a, is, how do I leave? |
| 0:47.2 | The question is, how do I stay? |
| 0:51.2 | How do I stay where I'm unhappy? How do I stay where I'm not being fulfilled? How do I stay where I know I don't want to be? |
| 1:11.8 | How do I stay? Well, sometimes you can't stay. Sometimes you have left even before you turn your key over and that's probably more difficult to be in |
| 1:19.0 | than if you just gather up whatever nerve, courage, strength you need to say, this just isn't working for me. |
| 1:32.0 | Sometime the work to make it work is harder than the work |
| 1:39.4 | you'll have to do to just step out of it. How do you stay? How do you stay if you can't tell the truth? How do you |
| 1:48.9 | stay if you can't find a compromise? How do you stay? Well stay well can't stay but then the real question becomes well how do I leave |
| 2:01.1 | how do I leave with myself intact how do I leave the other person intact? How do I leave the other person intact? How do I leave and handle my responsibilities? How do I leave? |
| 2:10.0 | And what I always tell people is you really can't leave or won't leave until you can stay, |
| 2:21.4 | until you can be in the same place with the person, being honest and forthright without being |
| 2:29.2 | cruel and abusive or abrasive, you can't leave. |
| 2:34.4 | Because if you leave in the middle of a fight, |
| 2:38.0 | that fight will follow you. |
| 2:42.0 | So how do you stay with a clear vision that you're done? How do you stay with compassion for |
| 2:49.8 | yourself first and for what the other person is going through. How do you stay? |
| 2:56.9 | You stay with your heart and your mind open. That your best interests and the person's best interests will be best served |
| 3:09.8 | when you go. |
| 3:12.6 | stay and you create an exit plan. |
| 3:15.4 | Stay and you pray. |
| 3:18.8 | You pray that you get your lessons |
| 3:21.0 | and that you understand what you've done. |
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