What does it take to make a marriage work? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu invites the person she most trusts to offer insight into that question--her husband of 17 years, Tom Bilyeu. And if nothing else, he’s certainly the only person she could reasonably ask to discuss his most embarrassing relationship stories. Over the course of the episode Tom and Lisa share their history and talk about how to build trust, why you need to keep your sex life alive forever, the extent to which you can influence your partner, and how to deal with changing roles in the relationship. [Original air date: 2-14-20]. SHOW NOTES: Why you have to choose the right person to be with in the first place [3:28] Your personalities can be different, but your values need to be quite similar [6:08] Tom discusses how easy it was to have differences when he wasn’t giving anything up [7:37] “I don’t even know who I am without you.” [13:24] To what extent can you change, manipulate or influence your partner? [14:13] You should never weaponize your knowledge of your partner [16:57] Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of defining words clearly [20:04] Tom talks about defining roles in a relationship [20:58] At first it was incredibly hard for Lisa to admit that she had outgrown being a housewife [25:04] Tom tells the story of how Lisa’s changing role affected him [27:20] Lisa and Tom discuss loving each phase of the relationship for what it is [32:36] You will always find other people attractive [35:19] Never take anything for granted, and keep your sex life alive forever [37:33] “Don’t make me feel bad for asking, and I won’t make you feel bad for saying no.” [41:48] Tom shares the story of how he and Lisa learned to not test each other or drop hints [43:02] FOLLOW TOM: WEBSITE: https://impacttheory.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2UBHWjM FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2UMIFPj TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2SgF7TN SPONSORS: Go over right now and sign up for just one dollar a month with your trial period at https://Shopify.com/lisa Go to https://cleanmymac.com/ and use the promo code WOMANOFIMPACT to save 20% on your annual license. Get 5 free AG1 Travel Packs and a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D with your first purchase your first purchase by going to https://drinkAG1.com/lisa. Go to https://tryviome.com/LISA and use code LISA to get 20% off your first 3 months, and take control of your gut health today! ORDER YOUR COPY OF LISA'S BOOK "RADICAL CONFIDENCE"  (NOW IN PAPERBACK & WITH A NEW CHAPTER!) & GET YOUR FREE BADASS BONUSES: https://bit.ly/radcon ***CALLING ALL BADASSES!*** If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be!  *New episodes delivered ad-free, EXCLUSIVE access to hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, and so much more!* Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! *****Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP***** Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices