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Well, let's jump into this topic. This is a topic we haven't talked about yet on the show.

It's how to deal with people who are passive-aggressive. And I think from one time to another,

we've all had that experience. And it's one of those situations where something happens.

And then you say, is this really happening or am I making

this up? Is this an attack or not? And so it kind of drives you a little bit crazy. And so I'm really

excited to jump into this topic with you. So how about we just start off with an operational

definition for passive aggressiveness? What does that mean to you?

Well, to me, it means that you're keeping your needs and your wants a secret in some way,

and you're holding them back. That's like on the internal. The external, you're acting in a way

that makes you appear innocent or like, oh, there's nothing wrong or or even crossing over into being a bit of a

martyr, you know, like, oh, I will do this for you because I love you, you know, kind of falling on

your sword. So, you know, the passive part is like, I'm keeping whatever it is that's really

important to me to myself. The aggressive part is when you're acting out in some way that is actively concealing and

almost sometimes even sabotaging what it is that the other person is, whatever it is that you are

wanting to subvert from another person. I can give you an example. And this is just kind of a generic

one, but let's say that you're worried about your partner and you feel

like your partner is drinking too much, for instance. And it's time to go to the store and they ask you,

hey, would you, you know, add beer to the list? You say, okay, sure, you know, I can do that. And then

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