A lot of people probably think before you get married that sex is supposed to be easy and it's not complicated, it's very natural and very passionate.

The truth is, the sex requires some work and

intentionality and it's not always so natural. I'm John Fuller along with Greg Smalley

and his wife Aaron and they lead the focus marriage team. Greg I'm sure you've never Greg

and his wife Aaron and they lead the focus marriage team. Greg, I'm sure you've never encountered a couple that ever said,

gee, why is this so hard?

Yeah, never, not at all.

And in the reality is that, you know, those differences in our desires that can really

complicate our sexual relationship, but they can originate from all kinds of different things from biological issues,

you know, hormonal changes, health conditions, stress in certain life issues that we're going through.

Those are going to impact our sexual relationships, our own relationship dynamics.

So if Aaron and I are in a really difficult season or maybe just had

conflict, you know, we may not have that desire, mental health, you know, past experiences that were traumatic or have created

shame and guilt, all those kinds of things can impact desire. So what's hard about is it's easy to say, well, you know, couples, they're

going to have differences in their desires. Well, I mean, to be able to really step into that to try to unpack what's really going on

that's such an important conversation as couples we need to be having what's

really driving the lack or the differences in our desire.

And that's why we're talking about that today on this podcast.

Let's turn now to a conversation that focused President Jim Daleyhead with Dr. Michael Seitzma who's done some great

research work with popular author Shanti Feld on about married couples and sex.

Shanti and Michael welcome back.

Thanks. Thanks.

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