Hi everybody. Welcome to the Women's Dating and Confidence podcast. My name is Amber, and today I want to talk to you about thoughts that cause you to speed up.

Before we get into that, I want to share with you my free guide

called copy and paste texts for when he's pulling away or acting flaky. And the link for that

is going to be in the show notes. And if you haven't done a free 15 minute laser coaching session

with me before, you can schedule one of those, and the link for

that is going to be in the bio of my Instagram. And my Instagram is just my first and last name,

Amber Grubenman. Lastly, I'm starting my second group coaching program, and it's starting very soon.

So if you have been interested in working

together both in a group with one-on-one sessions, with chat support, to overcome dating anxiety,

to date and create attraction without playing games, to end the overthinking of everything,

to stop feeling like you're walking on

eggshells, then this program is definitely for you. So if you would like to learn more,

there's going to be a link in the show notes for that as well. All right. So today I had a free

15-minute call with somebody. And one of the things that we spoke about was noticing her

pattern of always speeding things up in the early stages of dating and kind of having this high and low

pattern where things go really fast and then they fizzle out just as quickly as they started.

And so things weren't really transforming into a longer, more solidified relationship.

And she also noticed that she would kind of lose herself in these connections.

So we only had a few minutes, but the first thing that we spoke about was that our actions always make sense.

Right. So anything that you're doing in dating, no matter how from afar it looks crazy or

it looks like you're self-sabotaging, it always makes sense for the thoughts that you're thinking and the

way that you're feeling because the way that we're thinking creates the way that we feel

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