These are my personal opinions always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

I used to avoid the hard conversations like the plague. I used to try to stay away from anything that would affect me emotionally. I did not want to deal with

confrontation. I didn't want to have to deal with the consequences of what I was feeling.

If I shared something with somebody, the consequence I was afraid of was that they wouldn't like me,

they would leave me, they would fire me, whatever it was. So my fear of confrontation and

mixed that with my people pleasing all my life, or most of my life, because about 10 years ago,

I stopped doing that. I stopped being the people pleaser and trying to avoid confrontation because it was

heading me in the wrong direction.

It was turning people off.

They wanted to avoid having conversations with me because I was just too much trouble.

Those are my words, but that's what happened pretty much.

We wouldn't have the hard conversations because they didn't want to hurt my feelings.

And when I stopped doing that and just started owning what I felt and what I thought,

it changed my life and it changed my relationships. I decided that it was better to speak a

truth, express something inside of me, than hold it in. Because when I held it in, it created

dysfunctional, it created a lot of dysfunction. It created messes.

And I didn't like dealing with those messes.

And the people in my life had to face the consequences of my, my inability to address tough subjects or even minor subjects because I didn't want to deal with what I believed would happen.

I didn't want to deal with their reaction.

And that's why I was in every single relationship except the one I'm in now, which is good

because this is the best relationship I've had.

And it's mainly because I decided to start speaking up, expressing myself, telling my truth,

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