These are my personal opinions always secret professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

What do you do when you start dating someone and they tell you that they tell you things that they've done in their past that either drive you crazy,

make you think twice about dating them,

make you become afraid that what they've done in the past is going to happen again.

I got a message from someone recently who said they are dating someone,

they've been dating for a few months now.

And he shared with her that he used to have a different lifestyle.

He got married in his early 20s and he got someone pregnant and he had a lot of women

flocking to him. And he said he had a lot of women flocking to him and he said he had a lot of affairs

or he had affairs and she wrote to me and she says I imagine the wife at home raising the children

while he's out working and then going out at night with other people.

And she said, the thoughts are fresh and plague me.

Is this something I can get over?

That's a great question.

I mean, right now you're talking about a values question.

If your values in a relationship are honesty and monogamy, commitment, get violated those are going to be a big issue that that might create a big problem or the relationship could end if you don't have

those values in a relationship so my first question to the person who shared this with me

is do you have those values now with this person?

If you do, that's a good sign.

Second, I have a few questions for you.

Second is, do you suspect that he is this way today?

That's something to think about. You already have. I know you have.

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