Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

As the new year starts I want to remind you of a few things. And by the way, thank you for listening to my podcast. I really appreciate it. It has given me life, purpose. What else has it given me life purpose.

What else has it given me?

It's given me a life spine, something I have not had before a vine to pull me out of my quicksand a lot. Okay, I have a few things I want to remind you of. One is stop hitting pause on life waiting for the thing to happen or the person to come or your partner to change.

I'm saying this at of own personal experience because I have struggled with this.

I have struggled with this I have most of my life and still sometimes find

myself subconsciously hitting pause what I mean by that is I'm in my head thinking okay only if this

happens right if only I get this land this when I was single when am I going to get find my next love right because when I do then I'm going to

decorate my apartment or whatever it is. Buy the new socks, clean the house. I don't know. You just

pause life and you don't train yourself to seek nectar in the day-to-day that doesn't hang on something happening or someone's yes or no, you know? And so with this year being new and fresh, I want to remind you to hit play on your life and not tie it to something that is outside of self.

Not allow your life slash happy be contingent

on something happening or findings love. I know many people I mean I mean the book I

I wrote on single on purpose I mean it captured a wide net of people

who needed to be reminded that they didn't have to find love to be happy, right? Of course you could want love, I didn't say single forever, but you don't have to find love to be happy. You don't have to be in a relationship for life to happen, you know? And also, finally, don't pause life

waiting for your partners to change, because you may be waiting for a long time.

I think we all struggle with that, you know,

trying to change our partners.

If he would only this, if she would only that,

if we could only get to this place.

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