Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

A lot of sticky happens because we don't have a life and by sticky I mean

co-dependency, emeshment, jealousy, control. I want to let you know that no one owns the relationship and I

think this is one of the greatest misconceptions and it's not something that we

are maybe consciously thinking and it's a slow drip right it happens over time no one goes

into a relationship thinking thinking they own it that's not what I'm saying

it's not what happens but you get into a relationship and you start to lose your life, right?

And slowly, and so the relationship kind of becomes your life, right?

It becomes the sun that you revolve around.

And if that's the case then if something

goes wrong in the relationship or if there's some kind of conflict then it means the

world because that becomes your life and when this happens we start to lose ourselves in the relationship and this is so

common. Remember you're sharing your life with your partner, you are not exchanging your life

for your partner. One of the things that I say the most as a relationship coach is to

get a life and I don't mean that in a dickish kind of way. I mean it sincerely. I think so many of us fall into a relationship and lose our own lives

we actually have a responsibility to carve out our own life for the relationship to thrive, right? So many of us

depend solely on our relationship and that relationship to bring us joy and

happiness that we start to lose ourselves and we start to lose our

sense of purpose meaning you are sharing your life with your partner again not

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