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Okay, sure. I do want you to compare yourself, but not in the way that you think.

As a social tribe species, we humans are naturally

compelled to compare ourselves with one another. We are continually measuring people's status,

the levels of respect and attention that they receive, and noticing any differences between

what they have and what we have. Our need to continually rank ourselves and measure our self-worth through our

status is a trait that is noticeable among all hunter-gatherer cultures. It is measured even among

chimpanzees. We all compare ourselves with others. We all feel unsettled by those who are superior

to us in some area that we esteem, and we all

react to this by feeling some form of envy. It is most likely to crop up among our friend's

circle, our peers operating in the same profession. Sure, for some of us, this compulsion

to compare ourselves can spur us on to work harder and to push ourselves

to excel through our work. But it is still not a healthy form of compulsion. And for others,

it can turn into a nasty envy, people who feel that they deserve to have as much as others.

Yet somehow feel helpless to get such things. Those people turn their

feelings of inferiority and frustration into covert attacks and acts of psychological

sabotage on those that they envy. Now, nobody admits to acting out of envy. But all of us

feel envy from time to time, the sensation that others

have more of what we want, be it possessions, attention, admiration, respect, etc. Think about it.

Think about the last time that you heard about, or read about the sudden success of someone in your

field. Do you remember the inevitable feeling, the pang of wanting the same,

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