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Here's your success mentor, Darren Hardy.

Everybody messes up. It's what you do after you mess up that matters.

Let's talk about how to say you're sorry. It's easy to give a bad

one, and too many people are doing it these days, and it goes from bad to worse. So here's how to

give a good one. If you can't remember the last time you apologized, congratulations. You are

perfect, or at least you believe so. For the rest of us, apologizing is a common, if not

difficult, part of life. It's funny because among the earliest lessons imparted to children

is the art of saying sorry. Yet for some odd reason, these skills don't seem to transfer

through adulthood. I think it's ego, pride, and social fears that takes over. But what's ironic is,

not apologizing correctly, is what brings on the very things that they fear about apologizing.

They worry about appearing weak, but a weak apology is what shows weakness. They worry about

being shunned from the group, but their display of lack

of empathy is what disconnects them from others. They fear negative consequences, but their lack of

self-awareness and personal responsibility is what makes them appear incompetent and untrustworthy.

Some view apologizing as admitting defeats and thereby lowering their social status. Others thinks that it

tarnishes their reputation. But on the contrary, a successful apology is what can bring people

closer together and can improve your standing within the receiver and others' witness. Look, I know

interactions with other primates are precarious. It's easy to cause

unintentional harm, but it's harm no less. And when somebody is upset with you, it is common

to shift into self-protection mode and to trick yourself into believing that you didn't do

anything wrong, coming up with all sorts of reasons why you shouldn't apologize. We default to

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