You need laughter. You need joy. You need to savor really good moments because what you're doing is building up positive emotion, which actually gives you more cushion, more margin to deal with the hard stuff.

Welcome back. We're in our health and wellness series. Today we're talking about our mental health. I am thrilled to have my friend Valerie Burton back on the show. Valerie is a bestselling author and speaker and coach who has spent years helping women be more successful. I am a huge fan of hers. I had so much fun in this conversation. She's going to show us how to build our reserves, to bounce back

faster, and to choose joy on purpose. It's so data-driven and research-backed. You know that is my

jam. I love this. In this episode, we're going to break down simple

tools you can use and mindset shifts that can change everything. It's clear, it's practical,

and it has a really funny behind-the-scenes story at the end that she's going to tell you that I

think you're going to love. Before we dive in, I want to tell you. Okay, let's get started with my friend Valerie.

Valerie, welcome back to the show. Tell me what people get wrong about resilience.

Oh, my goodness. Well, I think probably the biggest thing is that we think resilience looks

like strength all the way through.

And resilience often looks very, very messy in the middle of it.

It doesn't actually look resilient at all in the middle of it.

It may look like being totally stressed out.

It may look like failing.

It may look like making multiple mistakes or being in the midst of disappointment,

but ultimately, resilience is a system you create that helps you withstand stress and

persevere through difficulties. And so it doesn't necessarily look strong in the middle of it. It's on the other end.

Did you adapt? Did you recover? Did you overcome? That's really good. I think for women who are in the

middle of a difficult season, they hear words like strength or resilience and they're like, I don't have time for that.

I'm just trying to survive. So I wonder if we're building resilience in the middle of the

difficult seasons, but when we're not in the middle of a storm, is that when it's time to really

think about it and put these systems together? Because eventually we're going to go back into a storm. Absolutely. That's when that's when you have the clearest

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