I need to tell you something, and it's going to sting a little.

You know that friend who always says yes, the one who volunteers for everything, covers extra shifts,

and somehow makes everyone else's problems her emergency?

The one who responds to every text in 30 seconds but hasn't had 30 minutes to herself in months?

That friend is disappearing.

Day by day, yes by yes, she's abandoning herself

so completely that she doesn't even remember what she wants anymore. And if you're thinking,

oh no, that's me, well, we need to talk. What you think is kindness, it's actually betrayal.

What you think of as selflessness, it's dysfunction.

And today we're talking about how to stop people pleasing and start prioritizing your own needs.

So grab a coffee cup, get comfortable, and let's get started. But before we

get started, I do want to remind you. Okay, let's dive in. I want to paint a picture for you. It's

Tuesday night. You've worked a full day. You've picked up groceries. You've helped your kid with

homework. And now you're responding to 17 text messages from various people who need things from you.

Your sister needs you to watch her dog this weekend because apparently you're the National

Dog Sitting Reserve. Your coworker needs you to cover part of their project because you're just so good

at this stuff, which is corporate speak for sucker. Your friend needs advice about her relationship drama again, and so on,

and so on, and so on. You want to say no to all of it. Your body is screaming for rest louder than

a toddler having a meltdown in Target, but instead you find yourself typing, of course,

happy to help, while watching your soul leave your body through the phone screen.

It's like death by a thousand yeses. Here's the real truth. You're not being nice. You're being

dishonest. You're acting like everyone else's time is precious while yours is apparently free to

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