Hello everyone, this is Love Life with Matthew Hussie. You know, we've all been hurt in relationships.

If we're not careful, we can end up shutting ourselves off completely to protect ourselves from more pain.

But that cheats us out of opportunities to find the love we really deserve.

So what should we do instead?

I want to come back to this at the end of the show.

But first, let's get into today's episode.

I wanted to talk today about how to recover from an argument.

Because one of the things that damages relationships isn't having the arguments themselves.

It's the amount of time that people actually take to recover after an argument.

If we can have a discussion or have a debate about something or have a disagreement

and then quickly snap back from it, that's a very powerful place to be.

Now, the hard part is when we're in a bad place after an argument.

Because very often, and I know you would have had this before, I've been in an argument where afterwards I still don't feel right.

And I don't know quite how to get over it in that moment.

I want to, you know what you have that feeling where you go, I want to be okay right now.

I want to move on, but I don't know how.

I'm still angry or something is still bothering me.

Those moments, I believe, are moments where you have to get a little bit vulnerable.

I always remember an instance.

I'm going to get a little personal with you.

I was a member in instance where in the early stages of a relationship,

someone was, the person I was with was downloading photos from their phone from the last three years onto their laptop.

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