What's the most stressed you've ever been in your marriage? Now I'm sure that if I had time I would think of about 15 or 20 but I've blocked them.

It's just painful to think about the stressors and the way I show up in my marriage it is not good.

I just had a situation over the weekend where some family member looked at me and said

chill and I thought I just live in this place.

Which is the right way to handle that for people to relax chill out well actually

take a breath it did kind of interrupt my my note I started to defend but then I

realize no I can't defend so yeah can you relate to this? Oh just a wee bit. Okay. Like what? Give me an example. Yeah.

Yeah. Well, even as of recently Aaron and I, our son, whose's 23, was in a foreign country as part of a mission program for about four

or five months.

And where he ended up going it really stresses both out.

A lot of conflict.

Yeah, it just never felt safe and so I think part of it is just learning to be aware of what is going on in my body that helps me to understand that I'm actually stressed out.

And for me, trying to sleep at night, I would kept perseverating, thinking, stewing on where's he

at and I would run through these scenarios and I would I would remind him

remember you've got that grab bag so a little backpack full of you know had some money

passport that kind of stuff and it just it it helped me to go okay I know that I'm stressed

and in tell you the the Abraham and in Isaac story

Really minister to me the other day in the midst of kind of all the stress.

And is you remember the story that Abraham's being asked by God to place his son as a sacrifice on the altar to kill him.

And I could imagine what sort of stress that Abraham would have found and experienced.

And yet right before he sacrificed his son,

the angel said, now I know that you fear God.

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