It's got to be one of the most shocking things to hear when your spouse says I want out of this marriage.

We know that a lot of you have been through this and so if

this is something that you're dealing with or you know somebody who's going

through this please know focus on the family wants to help I'm John

Fuller along with Greg and Aaron Smalley they oversee our marriage team here and

Greg you and Aaron actually reached a point where you felt something isn't right and I mean did you wonder is this going to make it?

Yeah there was a really tough season about three years indoor marriage that I really wasn't sure that Aaron wanted to stay married. I was

confused. We were really hurting thinking that we were suffering in silence and

that no one really knew what we were going through.

And this woman, her name is Carrie, her husband Gary, she called over looking for

air and I answered the phone and she said, hey hey Carrie she goes hey I want to talk to

Aaron and I go well Aaron left and in her response to me was, oh Greg, I'm so sorry. I was so worried that this was going to happen.

Oh, she was thinking Aaron left you all together. Oh my goodness.

I'm thinking Aaron went to the store.

Left to go grocery shopping.

Do you know something that I don't know?

And honestly, there were seconds of this sort of awkward silence and

Carrie finally went, I am so embarrassed.

She goes, however, if I'm being honest, something's going on.

We can just, Gary and I can see it, we feel it.

Why don't you guys come over tonight

and let's have dinner together and let's talk.

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