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Hi there, this is Janet Lansbury.

Welcome to Unruffled.

Today I have a question about praise.

This parent is interested in how to give positive feedback without using value judgments.

And I thought this was great because praise is a misunderstood topic and I'm excited

for the chance to weigh in on it.

Okay, here's the email I received.

Dear Janet, thank you so much for all the insight you have shared.

It has helped our family immensely.

As we work every day to raise our children differently from how we were raised with respect

with kindness and with authenticity.

One aspect we're not perfectly clear about is giving positive feedback authentically

without putting unintended or intended pressure on our kids to meet those expectations

of whatever a compliment implies.

With activities, we're very consistent.

I love hearing you play, sing, watching you dance.

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