Hi there. Thanks for joining. And welcome. My name is Josh. And this is the Darmapunks Tuesday

gathering online. If you ever need to reach me, feel free to write DPX NYC at gmail.com.

Generally, I'm good for responding with resources and stuff like that when people write long emails asking me to interpret their childhood.

I'm not that.

I don't have the time to write long responses, but I do have the time to

provide resources or guidelines. And if you would like to support my work, because everything I do

is not charged for, I don't put anything behind paywalls. It's all offered freely, and everything I do

is just supported by donation only. So the Venmo is Dharma punks with an ex-NYC, and the rest of the

ways to provide any kind of financial donation, no matter how small.

It's great.

It's at DharmaPunks with an XNYC.com, like the PayPal and the Patreon and all that.

So thanks for your consideration.

And now tonight, the validation trap.

This is something that I very often encounter in the counseling work I do so for the sake of imagining or creating a situation in your mind just

imagine sitting at a family dinner and casually bringing up a memory

from your childhood. And even if your parents are long departed or you have no family right now,

just imagine what that would have been like at some point, or if it

doesn't apply to you, just imagine someone else in this situation, bringing up a memory from

childhood, something that still bothered you or this person, and then imagining family members dismissing the feelings basically

saying you're being too sensitive and all you expected was a acknowledgement

maybe some people seek even an apology but most of the time just an acknowledgement you know

but instead very often people receive something along a defensive that's not how it happened

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