The Truth About ‘Vibes’ Dating: Why Men Think Basic Questions Are ‘Too Much’

CockTales: Dirty Discussions

Kiki Said So & Medinah Monroe

Comedy, Personal Journals, Relationships, Society & Culture

4.6 • 3.1K Ratings

🗓️ 11 December 2025

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Summary

This week, we’re talking about vibes — the good ones, the delusional ones, and the ones men swear should replace actual communication. After mixing up our refreshing pH Balance Cocktail, we dig into Medina’s viral moment about dating communication and the wild comments from men who think asking, “What podcasts do you listen to?” is somehow “too much.”

We also get into:• A listener’s essential-oil disaster (peppermint should NOT go everywhere)
• Why communication is not “being nosy”
• New men in elevators & unexpected meet-cutes
• Cat-mama initiation tips from Black women with cats
• Atlanta life updates, Friendsgiving stories & deconstructed pies
• What dating looks like when you’re grown, busy, and intentional

🍸 pH BALANCE COCKTAIL
2 oz vodka
1 oz fresh lemon juice
0.75 oz honey syrup or simple syrup
Splash of cranberry juice
2–3 cucumber slices
Club soda to top
Garnish: cucumber wheel or lemon twist

How to make it:

Muddle the cucumber gently in a shaker. Add vodka, lemon juice, and honey. Shake. Strain over ice in a tall glass, add a splash of cranberry, top with club soda, and garnish. Announcements and promos are at the end — don’t miss them!

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0:00.0	Yeah, yeah, check one, two, check one, two.
0:04.3	Is this mic on?
0:05.6	Is this mic on?
0:06.5	Hey, listen, man, it's the one and only trendset of DJ since, and you're listening to cocktails.
0:11.4	Dirty discussions with Kiki and Medina Monroe.
0:14.5	Yeah.
0:19.3	Today's cocktail is called the pH Balancer. Yep, you heard it right. The ingredients you need to make a pH
0:26.5	balancer is not only the doctor, but two ounces of vodka, one ounce of fresh lemon juice,
0:31.6	0.75 ounces of honey syrup or some simple syrup, a splash of some cranberry juice, two to three
0:37.4	slices of cucumber for
0:38.7	balance and hydration, some club soda to top it off, and then you're going to garnish it with
0:43.9	that cucumber wheel or a lemon twist, or both if you're nasty. Here's how you're going to make a pH
0:49.1	balancer. You're going to muddle that cucumber gently at the bottom of the shaker, add the vodka,
0:55.3	the lemon juice, and the honey.
0:59.3	Shake it up, strain it over ice in a tall, cute little glass.
1:03.8	Add a splash of cranberry for color and then top it with a club soda, garnish with your cucumber wheel, and enjoy having your pH balanced.
1:09.1	Welcome back to Cocktails Dirty Discussions, you guys.
1:12.7	I'm Kiki Said So.
1:13.9	Hey y'all.
1:14.6	I am Medina Monroe.
1:15.7	Now, I have never had this exact cocktail before, but I did have one very similar.
1:23.4	I like the cucumber and lemon with vodka.
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