The Truth About Secure Attachment (with Bethany Saltman)

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

JLML Press

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.7 • 3.8K Ratings

🗓️ 17 March 2021

⏱️ 38 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

Bethany Saltman’s fascinating new book “Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey into the Science of Attachment” recounts her personal, 10-year journey investigating the scientific theory of attachment. As a new mother, Bethany was afraid she simply “wasn’t enough” for her baby. Eventually, through intensive research and self-examination, she realized that everything she had read and thought she knew about secure attachment was wrong. Her message to parents is: “Get connected to your own heart, and bring your kid along for the ride.” For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ. Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon, Google Play, Barnes & Noble and Apple Books. Janet's exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com) Our Sponsors:* Check out BabyQuip and use my code UNRUFFLED for a great deal: http://www.babyquip.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0	Hi, this is Janet Landsbury. Welcome to Unruffled. Today I'm excited to welcome Bethany Saltman
0:09.7	to the podcast. She's an author, an award-winning editor and researcher who took a fascinating,
0:16.0	very personal 10-year journey into the science of attachment. She's had many surprises along the way,
0:22.5	and she shares this journey in her book Strange Situation, a mother's journey into the science
0:28.7	of attachment. Before we begin,
0:36.3	Hi Bethany, welcome to Unruffled. Hi, thanks for having me. I really enjoyed your book, and I know
0:44.8	that listeners will want to know all the highlights. If not more, hopefully they'll go get your book.
0:50.8	One of the many unique aspects of your story is that you dove into this journey of intensive
0:59.7	research and that it was driven by this personal passion and maybe a little bit of fear. Am I
1:07.8	getting that right? Yep, terror maybe. Can you talk a little about that? Sure, absolutely. So my
1:14.1	daughter was born in 2006, and I really wanted to have her. I had worked hard to become pregnant.
1:22.2	She was very intentional, and when she was born, I loved her. I felt all of those squishy,
1:29.2	hurt feelings about her and her little body and her little ways and her smell and all that stuff.
1:36.6	But I was so surprised because I really believed that I would become a different person when I became a mother.
1:45.4	And I realized quickly that that was not happening and that I was still edgy,
1:51.5	complicated, you know, mouthy me. And I was horrified because I loved this child. And I realized that I
2:01.6	thought something was going to happen to save her from me. And then I was in quite a conundrum
2:09.1	because I thought, oh my god, I'm all she has. Am I enough? And the answer at that time was no,
2:15.6	I'm definitely not. I'm damaged. I'm broken. I love her, but I love her so much. I want to protect her
2:23.3	from myself. And so that's what got me started on the journey to find out about attachment and was I
2:28.7	enough. And you feared that you yourself weren't securely attached to your own mother. And therefore,
2:37.2	you wouldn't be able to pass this along organically to your daughter. Exactly. So you started on this
	...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Previous episode | Next episode

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from JLML Press, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of JLML Press and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.