I think a lot of people shy away, especially in their love life, but I think this broadens out to

their entire lives. We'll back away from hard conversations. At least one reason is because they don't

know the right words. Yes. And they're afraid. And, you know, if you are in a long-term relationship, you're like, if I say a lot, it's all going to erupt. And you know what I mean? And then you're afraid of what's going to come back. Most of us don't have instruction on that. And so I think one of the great things that you do is help us. So I actually want to start with some hypotheticals. But can we talk about how your beautiful, amazing wife, Audrey,

actually did this when you all first met each other.

Oh, I'm so sick of talking about everything this woman did right.

Yes. Well, we're going to go there because I think it's a perfect example.

She's, when I went back to Los Angeles after having met Audrey,

I then started to drift and we weren't in a relationship.

We were just two people that liked each other

and we would text and then gradually my texts

became more and more sparse and eventually

I think it had been a couple of weeks.

It had already been a bit sparse

and then it had been a couple of weeks since we'd spoken been a bit sparse and then it had been a couple of weeks

since we'd spoken. And I sent her a message that said either, I can't remember which,

it either said, I miss you or I'm thinking of you. And she sent me a message back that said,

hey, I hope you well. To be honest, when you send me things like

that, I don't really know what to say, which is a great start. I don't really know what to say.

Yeah. I'm confused is what that line says. She said, we haven't really been that close for a while now.

And rightly or wrongly, this message comes across as a bid for attention.

That stung, firstly, because it was true.

But if you look at that, it's when she says, we haven't

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