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Hi, I'm Andy and welcome to Radio Headspace and to Thursday morning.

Good question for you. Are there any relationships in your life where you've got to a point in that relationship where you no longer

really see the person for who they are right now and perhaps rely more on who they have been in the past and what your relationship has been up until now?

So another way of thinking about that is when you chat to these people, this person, are you in your mind thinking, oh yeah, I remember when you said that last time or are they always say this?

These kinds of thoughts that exist in the mind that sort of reinforce or that we use to reinforce the story lines we have about these people, perhaps it's individual, or that we use to reinforce the state of our friendship or relationship or whatever it might be.

I was chatting with the friend just recently and we were talking about sort of especially in long standing relationships, especially I think very often when you're perhaps living with a person, maybe I don't know, it's boyfriend or girlfriend or a fiance or maybe even a husband or wife, but for many, many years, how easily you almost stop learning about one another.

And there's just a sense that you kind of already know the other person, know who they are, you know what they're about.

And therefore, the actions are seen through that lens. And you know, there's not that sense of meeting that person where they are right now and equally being met in that same way, but rather instead say that person always does that or they always say that.

And that doesn't really allow any room in a relationship. In many ways, it's very unfair. It's natural, it's human, it's what we all do to some extent.

And yet, it doesn't really allow that other person's space to change or grow in any way at all. And even if they do within our own mind, they're not.

So we're kind of really limiting, we're short-changing that person in the relationship. So there's something really helpful about just noticing how you turn up and how you communicate with those people you care about in your life.

Yes, of course, they will have tendencies, they will have traits, they will have characteristics that you will see time and time again. And that they will see in us, they will see in you. That's inevitable. That's just part of being human.

At the same time, we are all changing all of the time, both them and us. If we're able to sort of see that, then we create a bit more space in the relationship.

And actually, sometimes it can really transform a relationship. It sounds like such a simple thing. But so often we bring the baggage from the past into this moment now.

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