This isn't your average business podcast and he's not your average host. This is the James Altager show. Nick I need to make more friends I need to be better at having, at being social in a party.

I've literally gotten depressed at points in my life because I am just not good at parties and I run out of steam very fast and it's not the way I typically

make friends.

But you're the expert.

You wrote the two hour cocktail party, it's a great great book how to build big relationships with

small gatherings what got you started making parties I hate parties I mean I would go to

stuff in New York City these big so-called networking events, and I moved to New York wanting to meet people

and make friends, and I go to these big events at these loud night clubs where it's dark and

it's a bunch of slimy people people and I would leave feeling like a loser like it was all my fault

And I said yeah yeah yeah I think that's a common experience for a lot of people.

And I realized that it wasn't that I was a loser,

it's just that I was going to loser events.

And instead of going to bad events,

I'd learn how to host my own good events.

And so what did you start doing?

And New York City's hard because you have like,

everybody's got a small apartment and stuff.

Like what did you start doing?

I had a small apartment too. I started to host parties at my home, which that's part of my formula, but I'd invite people over a mix of my neighbors and people I already knew and then new people that I met.

And I think, I mean that's interesting that like you probably go through life meeting a bunch of interesting people maybe

who want to have dinner with you or they want to like pick your brain. and the reality is we're all too busy to make those happen.

But I realize that everybody wants to be invited to a party and everybody wants to know someone who connects people.

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