We've been told, rightfully so, that assertive communication is the best way to get our

ideas across and to build bridges.

But what if our assertiveness causes her feelings or frustration in others?

Or what if we're trying to communicate with someone who has a different communication

style and we seem to just be talking past each other?

Welcome back to Savvy Psychologist.

I'm your host, Dr. Jade Wu.

Every week I'll help you meet life challenges with evidence-based research, a sympathetic

ear, and zero judgment.

Today, let's learn how to navigate different communication styles with some advanced tips,

including the most powerful communication tool of all listening.

Recently, a Savvy Psychologist listener named Michael H. from Ohio contacted me with a

question about communication styles.

He wrote, I recently fell out of a relationship, and during the breakup, when my partner told

me that my assertive communication style often made her feel guilty, I felt terrible

that my words made her feel bad about herself.

I thought being direct and honest with my feelings was for the betterment of the relationship,

but only now do I see that I fail to properly bridge the gap between our communication styles.

While it breaks my heart knowing I cannot go back to fixing between us, how can I better

prepare myself for partners down the road?

First of all, Michael, I want to say to you, I'm so sorry to hear about your breakup,

but I can tell that your soul-searching and openness to growth will be wonderful assets

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