And also giving ourselves grace is so important here. I want you to remember you don't have to be perfect.

We just need to be present and we need to be willing and thoughtful to create positive moments with the people we love, the people we work with, the people we lead. Did you know that there is a secret formula to making relationships happier and stronger?

It's true. Here is the secret formula to happy relationships. Today I'm going to teach you how to apply this magic ratio in your life with your family,

your husband, if you have one or boyfriend, friends, or even it works.

So stick around because today's show is packed with tips and tricks to help you create

and maintain healthier and happier relationships.

Now let's dive in.

Dr. John Gottman, the foremost relationship expert,

discovered through his research that in the healthiest, happiest relationships, there are five

positive interactions for every one negative interaction. This doesn't mean we ignore the negative,

but we balance it with more good moments. I want you to think

about it this way. If you have a tough moment with your kid, like they spill milk all over the

floor and you have a meltdown about it, it's important to follow up with positive interactions.

Maybe you praise them for helping clean up, or you give them a hug, or you laugh together later

in the day. Just something

simple. You don't have to go out of your way. You don't have to buy a pony to make up for it.

You just want to balance out negatives with positives. If you read remaining you while raising them,

I sure hope you have read it, then you know I talk about the magic ratio in that book and I talk

about how important it is to pile on the positives, those positive interactions big and little,

mostly little, that balance out all the negatives. The same principle applies in our marriages. If you

and your husband have a disagreement, it is crucial to counterbalance that with positive interactions. Again,

it doesn't have to be huge, right? Like, you don't have to buy him a pony either. It could be as simple

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