I'm Dr. Becky and this is Good Inside.

I thought now that my girls are in school full days and now it was kind of going to be

my time to go back to school to pursue some of my dreams kind of heading those directions

for a while and it's very hard to prioritize my own personal goals.

And I have all of these competing, I guess, priorities, seemingly more important priorities

that are calling for my attention.

Advocating for yourself, for your own wants and needs, is hard.

And we all know it's especially hard when you're also a caregiver to children.

Well, it's doubly hard if you also take on caregiving duties for your parents.

This week I'm talking to a mom of two girls about how to put herself back into the equation

while not losing the essence of what makes her a great caregiver to everyone around her.

So let's just kind of jump in, Tommy, a little bit about you and what's on your mind.

Okay, so I recently moved from Canada to the US to be closer to my parents.

They're in their 70s and so I knew, you know, they're aging.

We've never lived near them.

And so kind of my husband, I felt that urgency of the time is now to try it before the girls

are in middle school, high school, you know, they're kind of at a better age right now.

So we had a lot of motivations for the move but definitely being closer to grandparents

was part of it.

We came in August and I have been caught off guard by how much my parents have aged in

the last few years and how much I guess helping care, they require for me already.

And while I knew it was coming and I felt prepared for the idea of parents aging, I had never

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