Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

So Vanessa and I were talking the other day on the way home from a long drive and she was telling me about how her ex-boyfriend was doing and this was her college boyfriend this was you know the big one the

imprint on powder snow

The one that you compare you know all your other relationships with the one that you lost yourself in and my first thought revelation is that I didn't feel any kind of jealousy I actually engaged in the

conversation and what she was talking about without anything personal meaning there was there was no

you know feelings of comparison or jealousy or or any of that.

It was just like listening like a friend,

which I thought at 49 I finally come to a place

where I don't, it's really,

it takes a lot for me to be jealous I don't experience that

feeling as much as I did say my 20s and 30s the second revelation is something that I call the Polaroid Syndrome and this is you know when

because I well here here's what I was jealous of actually I wasn't jealous of him or threatened I was jealous of the fact that

She got to be friends with him that after all these years they still talk and and they're

following each other stories and the intentions are you know there are no

intentions other than just you know friends and two people in this world

who have collided and hope the best for each other, right?

So I got jealous because I wish I had that and a lot of my relationships in the past

didn't end well or there was definitely a lot of feelings, unresolved feelings,

probably more on their side than mine.

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