These are my personal opinions always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

I really hate holding onto things that bother me.

I really don't like walking around, thinking about it, thinking about somebody's feelings about me, toward me.

I had a reconciliation with a family member quite recently and it was liberating.

But, you know, when you don't talk to somebody for many, many years, you think maybe they don't like me.

Maybe we just don't get along

and we never will. I had somebody write to me and asked me, they're trying to reach their best friend

from high school. And they said, every time I try to reach out to her, she doesn't answer the phone.

She doesn't pick it up. And I tried texting her. And then eventually she blocked me. And then I got her number and I tried to call her and she said, I'll call you back when I have time and she never does. And then something happened and she found out that the other person was mad at her. And she said that her friend that she was trying to reach, I think the person who wrote to me as a she, I apologize if that's not true.

But she said that the other person was mad at her and she's also forgiven her.

So the person she's trying to reach out, her best friend from high school was mad at her, but I've forgiven you and I'll call you

and I'm ready but she hasn't heard back she doesn't know why she's mad she just knows that

she's been mad and she hasn't been able to reach you know the person who wrote to me says she

hasn't been able to reach her best friend and she wants to reach out and it really bothers her

and so she said you, help me get over

this. Help me try to get past this. So why does it upset you? I'm talking directly to that person

now. Why does it upset you that she's mad at you? I mean, when I put myself in your shoes,

I think, what did I do wrong? What could I have

done wrong? And maybe you didn't do anything wrong, but she interpreted it that way. Or maybe she

just changed. Some people change. Some people hold a grudge for something you did in eighth grade.

And then they think about it later and think about how vital and impactful it was in their life.

And then they realize, I don't want to talk to that person anymore.

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