These are my personal opinions always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

Wow, here's one for you. This person lives with his wife, his wife's mom, and another family member, and they're having issues.

How could you have issues with that cocktail of family members?

Sometimes it works.

Sometimes you can all get along and everything is fine, but I do believe that there needs to be

contribution from every family member in some way,

unless one's infirmed or disabled or whatever.

Or maybe one owns the house.

Like if her mom owns the house, then you're basically in her mom's house under her rules.

And if your wife is stuck on living there or is set on living there,

because she doesn't want to get a full-time job, then this really all comes down to what

you want to do with your life. And if you want to stay with somebody who doesn't want to work full time and try to get a house

together or save a lot of money or whatever it is, it comes to stuff I've talked about before,

which is accepting people exactly as they are knowing they'll never change. That may not be true,

but that is the first place I go with this is if I chose to accept that my wife would never ever change,

what decision would I make for myself? Would I just say, okay, I'm going to stay with her because

I love her and it doesn't matter and I'll figure it out, which may be your answer.

Could be my answer.

Or am I going to feel stifled?

Am I going to be unhappy?

You might say, yeah, I'm going to be unhappy.

Will you be able to accept your wife and her decisions the way she is for indefinitely?

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