These are my personal opinions always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

I had someone reach out to me and tell me that they have been highly judgmental in their relationship,

and they told me that they read my article called, what is it called?

It's called, uh, judgment, the ultimate relationship destroyer or something like that.

Judgment is the ultimate relationship destroyer.

Because nobody wants to be judged, or at least, most people don't want to be judged for who they are,

what they do, and most people that you judge in your life, if you do that, are adults making their

own decisions and believing that they have a right, which they do to make their own decisions,

and do things that

others might not be in alignment with.

For example, this person who wrote to me said that they were or are very judgmental to

their wife, and he thinks that it's kind of hypocritical because he's judgmental about her drinking,

even though he drinks too.

And he said, I would get disgusted by her behavior and generally make her feel bad about it.

And the reason he started getting judgmental is because she started doing it more than he did.

Or she started doing it in excess that he did not care for or like.

And so he asked me, how did you get past this?

How did you get past judging excessive alcohol use? And he said, I feel like I'm in a weird

spot. So he's being honest. He's admitting that he probably shouldn't be judgmental,

but he can't get past it. He also mentioned in there that he had a father who was an alcoholic.

I don't know if that person is still alive, but he said,

my father wasn't alcoholic. So maybe because of that, or very likely because of that,

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