The Pareto Principle, Overcoming Despair, and Why the Basics Always Win | ASK ME ANYTHING
Order of Man
Ryan Michler
4.8 • 9K Ratings
🗓️ 8 October 2025
⏱️ 59 minutes
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Summary
In this week’s Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and guest co-host Jay Jairdullo tackle powerful questions from members of the Iron Council and the broader Order of Man community. They dive into overcoming complacency after success, saving a struggling marriage, the real key to consistency, and finding clarity amid diet confusion.
Ryan also shares guidance on battling depression, building self-worth, and mastering emotional regulation. This episode is packed with wisdom, frameworks, and honest stories that every man can apply to become stronger and more grounded in purpose.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 – Intro and catch-up with Jay
01:26 – Setting new goals and avoiding complacency
07:42 – Navigating marital separation and self-improvement
17:31 – Why some men thrive in the Iron Council
34:18 – Using the Pareto Principle
42:51 – Overcoming depression and learning self-love
48:35 – Managing emotions and staying calm
56:21 – Final thoughts and Iron Council invitation
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| 0:00.0 | I've seen a lot of people get wrapped up in the minutia. |
| 0:04.0 | You need to focus on the 80% issues. |
| 0:09.6 | It's the things that are going to produce 80% of the results. |
| 0:13.3 | And that's usually about 20% of the work. |
| 0:16.7 | This is called the Pareto Principle. |
| 0:18.3 | 20% of the work you're doing is going to produce 80%. It's the same thing in fitness. Get the 80% stuff done and then fill it in from there. Jay, what's up, man? It's good to have you back on the podcast. You were here a couple of weeks ago, and here we are again doing a Ask Me Anything this time. Yeah, it's great to be here really appreciate you having me |
| 0:37.8 | back yeah you feeling uh you feeling good you and your son started a podcast as well so you feel |
| 0:43.3 | like you're a professional yet or what semi semi pro we're like we're like semi pro we're not |
| 0:48.6 | quite in the big leagues yet where you know maybe double a ball you know after after this you know with the reach that we have |
| 0:55.5 | you're just gonna you're just gonna hit the spotlight and it's gonna take off from there so i love it |
| 1:00.5 | i love it well i appreciate you have me here and a big shoes to fill and i don't mean kip i mean |
| 1:04.3 | sean sean villelovos you usually have him that's right yeah yeah well I wanted to give you an opportunity. I know you're doing some |
| 1:12.1 | podcasting. And of course, we've been friends for a long time and the men that you work with |
| 1:16.6 | inside of our group and inside of our exclusive brotherhood, the Iron Council, all really respect |
| 1:22.6 | you and appreciate you. I don't know why. I'm trying to figure that out, but they do. And so, |
| 1:27.3 | so I figured, well, we might as well have the guy on the podcast to talk about some questions. So, um, let's just jump right into it today. We've got, I think, quite a few or several from over inside the Iron Council, which is open right now for enrollment at order a man.com slash iron council. And then I think we have some over on Facebook as |
| 1:45.3 | well. And I'm sure we'll get to all of them or as many as we can today. For sure. Yeah, the first one |
| 1:51.3 | comes from an iron council member, a new iron council member, Randy Norville. He's actually somebody |
| 1:56.0 | that I'm coaching. After achieving a big, yeah, after achieving a big goal, what is your process for finding |
| 2:02.2 | the next big goal and resisting complacency? For example, if you reach your desired position |
| 2:07.4 | and salary at work, but you have 30 years left in your career, do you find another position |
| 2:11.8 | salary that got cut off? Do you find another position in salary to to uh as an objective yeah i mean |
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