The Do's and Don'ts of Divorce | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
Order of Man
Ryan Michler
4.8 • 9K Ratings
🗓️ 10 October 2025
⏱️ 30 minutes
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Summary
In this deeply personal episode, Ryan opens up about his own divorce - how it unfolded, what he learned, and how men can navigate their own journey with strength and integrity. Drawing from experience and thousands of conversations with men, Ryan shares five things NOT to do and five things TO do when facing divorce.
He reminds listeners that divorce, while painful, doesn't have to be the end - it can be the start of rebuilding your life with purpose, clarity, and resilience.
Key Takeaways
Five Don'ts:
- Don't sedate yourself - Avoid alcohol, porn, or distractions that numb growth.
- Don't stalk your ex - Cut off emotional dependence and focus forward.
- Don't sleep around - Don't use others to fill emotional voids.
- Don't seek vengeance or self-harm - You're needed, and life can get better.
- Don't watch porn - It distorts intimacy and respect for women.
Five Do's:
- Build male friendships - Brotherhood is essential for healing and accountability.
- Develop new skills - Strengthen your financial and professional foundation.
- Learn a new hobby - Rediscover fun, joy, and adventure.
- Train your body - Rebuild strength, confidence, and vitality.
- Give back - Serving others heals your own pain.
Resources & Mentions
Divorce Not Death Program: divorcenotdeath.com
Email Ryan: [email protected]
Follow on Instagram: @ryanmickler
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Intro
00:31 - The Moment It Happened
02:54 - Hitting Rock Bottom
04:54 - The Don'ts: Avoid Sedation
07:17 - Don't Stalk or Chase
09:42 - Don't Sleep Around
12:03 - Don't End It All
13:50 - Don't Seek Vengeance
16:17 - The Do's: Build Brotherhood
18:39 - Develop Skills & Wealth
21:01 - Learn to Have Fun Again
23:19 - Train Your Body
25:18 - Give Back
26:50 - Divorce Not Death
28:30 - Closing Thoughts
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| 0:00.0 | early in our marriage, even in dating. I forgot about my friends. I pushed them aside. I didn't do |
| 0:05.9 | anything with them. I didn't reach out to them. I didn't go on trips or adventures or anything |
| 0:09.7 | like that with them because I thought I was doing what I should be doing. It was several years |
| 0:13.4 | into our marriage. We went through our separation and I realized, oh shit, I'm alone. I'm all alone. |
| 0:20.0 | My friends are still there. They're still doing things, but I |
| 0:22.6 | forsaked them. I didn't build those male friendships. So if you're not already building |
| 0:27.4 | friendships with other men, then you need to do that right now. |
| 0:32.6 | Men, I've got a very important message for you today, whether you found yourself staring down the barrel |
| 0:40.3 | of a divorce, or maybe you haven't and you're happily married, maybe you're even a newlywed, |
| 0:46.9 | or you're considering asking for her hand in marriage. I want to share some things with you |
| 0:52.8 | because something happened to me three years ago that I never would have imagined happening. And that is that I went through a divorce. |
| 1:00.9 | And I was very public about some of the things that led up to the divorce and for better or |
| 1:07.8 | worse, some of the fallout and the ramifications of that. And over the past three |
| 1:14.0 | years, I've learned a lot of valuable insight, not only as I navigate and walk through uncharted |
| 1:21.6 | territory, but as I talk with thousands and thousands of men on a weekly and monthly basis, who are dealing |
| 1:30.1 | with divorce, who have overcome divorce, who are being threatened with divorce. |
| 1:35.2 | And really what I want to do is give you some do's and don'ts, five do's, five don'ts |
| 1:41.1 | when it comes to divorce. |
| 1:42.6 | And then I'm going to give you one other very powerful resource at the end of this podcast. |
| 1:47.1 | So stick around. |
| 1:48.4 | I'm going to share just briefly because I've been very vocal and public about this. |
| 1:53.0 | But I'm going to share briefly a little bit about my experience. |
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