Welcome to the art of accomplishment, where we explore how deepening connection with ourselves

and others leads to creating the life we want with enjoyment and ease.

I'm Brett Kistler, and I'm here again with Joe Hudson.

Hey, Brett.

How's it going?

It is going well.

So today we wanted to talk about the opposite of trying. This is the thing that I really love is one of my favorite simple demonstrations that you did when I first met you. And it really just comes into any aspect of our lives to be able to find where the trying is and what that feels like and what other

options are available to us.

So I'm really excited to get into this one into more detail.

Yeah.

For those of you who haven't been through this with me, somehow or another, it always happens

in early interactions with me.

Somebody talks to me about trying.

So it's a very simple thing. You can do the exercise

at home right now. You just put your two hands together, put them together like they are palms in

front of you, like you have a prayer sign that's happening. And then what I ask people to do is I say,

try to pull your pinkies apart. And what people do is they actually pull their

pinkies apart. And then I say, no, no, no, no. I didn't say pull your pinkies apart. I say try to pull

your pinkies apart. And then the person really puts a lot of effort into pulling the pinkies

apart, but doesn't actually pull them apart.

So if you're at home, do that right now.

See what that's like to really try to pull your pinkies apart, but not do it.

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