The One That Got Away…Is Back #HMAY Ep. 276
How Married Are You?
Glen & Yvette Henry
4.9 • 1.4K Ratings
🗓️ 21 January 2026
⏱️ 52 minutes
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Summary
Have you ever had a “what if” person… and you can’t tell if it’s God’s timing or an emotional trap?
In this episode, a listener writes in about a seven-year friendship that keeps circling back into something deeper. They’ve never kissed, she’s been abstinent for five years, and now — for the first time — their timing finally aligns to explore a relationship. But she’s torn: he’s warm, patient, and makes her feel safe… yet she’s afraid she’s been living more in fantasy than reality.
They’re long-distance, both navigating ADHD, and she’s trying to rebuild her faith while also wanting a partner who can lead spiritually — without performing faith just to keep her. So the real question becomes: is love and safety enough to take the risk, or is this a distraction that could derail her growth?
We talk about how to move forward with wisdom, how to check your “sober mind” when you’re already emotionally invested, and why you can’t keep someone in your life as a permanent what-if.
✨ What You’ll Hear
Izzy’s letter to Glen after Sydney’s passing (bring tissues)
Release Rest Remain update + the YouVersion Bible reading plan
Listener email: the long-distance “what if” friendship turning serious
ADHD, consistency, and what love looks like in real life
Faith alignment, spiritual leadership, and moving with a sober mind
Why “love is a risk” — and how to take it wisely
Parenting + marriage questions: balance, devotionals, and real-life routines
💬 Join the Conversation
Have you ever carried a “what if” relationship for years?
What helped you decide to risk it — or finally let it go?
❤️ If This Helped You
Like the video, subscribe, and share it with someone navigating long-distance love, boundaries, and faith alignment.
📚 Resources & Links
Father Yourself First
https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555
Release Rest Remain
https://a.co/d/ihBmSdO
Release Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan
https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646
Premarital Advantage
https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2
Saturday Men’s Group (Black men, 7 a.m. PT)
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1
Patreon Community
https://www.patreon.com/HMAY
Yvette’s Email List
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The Biggest Story Affiliate links mentioned in this episode
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https://bit.ly/4qz1IIZ
https://bit.ly/3NDgUG1
HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate)
https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-US
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | If you're not going to pursue him, |
| 0:01.4 | okay. |
| 0:01.9 | Leave him alone. |
| 0:02.9 | Yes. |
| 0:03.5 | Never talk to him again. |
| 0:04.6 | I agree. |
| 0:04.9 | Lose his number. |
| 0:05.7 | I agree. |
| 0:06.2 | Because you're going to hate. |
| 0:07.3 | You're going to be a hater on the sidelines when he get married. |
| 0:23.0 | Hello, my name is Mrs. Melan. |
| 0:23.9 | And I'm Belief Mel. |
| 0:28.1 | And we're here with episode 276 of How Married Are You? |
| 0:31.9 | Okay, my name really, this is Eve, and we married 15 years. |
| 0:33.9 | Live in California, we got four. |
| 0:36.8 | Relationships scary is very necessary. |
| 0:38.3 | We shout up with struggles. We ask how necessary. We share a love of struggles. |
| 0:39.9 | We ask how married are. |
| 0:42.4 | Every two ain't Thursday shoddy. |
| 0:47.7 | If you listen and you're in a wedding party, it's okay if you want to put your hands up. |
| 0:48.9 | You got the questions. |
| 0:50.1 | We got the answers. It's chocolate baby story time. |
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