The "Not Good Enough Principle" and How it Robs us of our Self Esteem and Peace

Emotional Badass

Nikki Eisenhauer

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.8 • 2.2K Ratings

🗓️ 1 May 2018

⏱️ 9 minutes

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On this weeks show Nikki examines the "not good enough principle" and explore how letting go of perfectionism is crucial for Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) aiming to boost self-esteem and adopt better mindfulness practices. Delving into The Not Good Enough Principle, this episode offers valuable insights into the unique challenges HSPs face, providing practical strategies to overcome feelings of never being good enough. By addressing deep-seated perfectionism, listeners will learn how to reframe their mindset, prioritize self-compassion, and truly embrace the concept of 'good enough.' This approach not only enhances personal development but also significantly improves mental health and well-being for those who feel constantly overwhelmed by their sensitivity and high standards. Tips on how to re frame our outlook about ourselves and self worth. It's time for the sensitives, the empaths, the seekers, to embrace healing and growing self worth and esteem, inner motivation for good enough, and let go of the inner bully that creates anxiety and robs us of peace. If you are interested in supporting us even more than a 5-star review, you can find Emotional Badass on Patreon where you will get exclusive bonus content and videos chekck out https://www.patreon.com/emotionalbadass Resources: Download the free Morning Routine PDF to learn our techniques to help conquer your day! https://www.emotionalbadass.com/morning-routine Community & Exclusive Bonus Episodes & Video: https://www.patreon.com/emotionalbadass 30 Days to Peace Course: https://www.EmotionalBadass.com/peace CODE: BADASS for 30% Off Brain.FM: CODE: Emotionalbadass for 20% off and a free month Join our newsletter for weekly wellness emails where we share mental health tips, announcements, discount codes, and highlight past episodes: https://www.emotionalbadass.com/newsletter Check out our Guided Meditations narrated by Nikki available for sale: https://www.emotionalbadass.com/store/meditations Follow us on Social Media: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/emotionalbadass IG: https://www.instagram.com/emotional.badass FB: https://www.facebook.com/emotionalbadass TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@emotionalbadass Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/emotionalbadass Thank you for supporting this show by supporting our sponsors: https://www.emotionalbadass.com/sponsors Advertising: Please contact sales@advertisecast.com if you would like to advertise on our podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome to Emotional Badass. I'm Nikki Eisenhower. And today we're going to talk about not being good enough and if there's one thing that maybe is universal in the whole how we're affected by our family's piece, if you had a parent, this is the example that I like to give, if you had a parent that you would run home, you would bring home your report card and you had a great report card, whether you were a solid C student or a solid A student, a great report card for you.
0:56.5	And your good, decent parent opens up your report card and scans it and points to the lowest grade and says, what happened here?
1:07.4	If that little scenario I just gave you resonates, you may be victim to the never,
1:13.0	ever good enough dynamic. Because a lot of parents, especially a lot of old school parents who grew
1:18.3	up in a different time, different parent-child relationships, no Oprah on TV, no self-help, no
1:25.2	podcast getting healing information out there that you're listening to right
1:29.7	now. I'm sure this isn't your first podcast ever. So people were doing the best that they knew how to do.
1:35.0	And what people thought was that that's motivating to point out your weakness so that you can
1:41.4	work on it. That's what people really genuinely believed. Some people
1:45.0	were also just really genuinely bullies. But regardless of the reason behind it, that was a really
1:50.9	common thing. And what that does to a sensitive kid that just needs a little bit of praise,
1:57.6	a little bit of encouragement, a little bit of, wow, you did great. That's it.
2:02.2	It's all we really need. In that moment, we feel a little crushed. And that's where the perfectionism
2:08.7	starts to bloom. It's not conscious. That kid doesn't necessarily think, I'm going to get perfect
2:16.6	grades next time. They might, but often it's just
2:19.1	subconscious because we want our parents' approval. We seek approval as a species. It's human.
2:26.9	And we walk a fine line as healthy adults of needing encouragement, needing to be seen,
2:32.3	needing to be heard from our tribe, but not relying on it
2:37.0	and being able to give it to ourselves. So we're always kind of finding this balance. So with the
2:42.0	not good enough, a lot of us in recovery, a lot of us in soul healing have to practice reprogramming
2:50.8	our brains out of looking at a fantastic report card
2:54.8	and noticing the lowest mark healing is about retraining ourselves so that our natural automatic
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