The No-Ultimatum Way to Get Him To Commit

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 20 January 2016

⏱️ 6 minutes

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Summary

Here’s a little secret about men: More often than not, we want to be in a committed relationship. We just want to believe that it was our idea in the first place. That’s why putting pressure on a guy or “selling” him on the idea of exclusivity will only push him away. In today’s episode I’m going to hand you the exact words to say to a guy to let him know you’re interested in something more serious without sounding like an ultimatum. This allows you to show your standard and send the subtle message that if he doesn’t make up his mind he risks losing you forever. Chances are, after this talk, HE’LL be the one asking YOU for the commitment. (He’ll only think it’s all his own idea!)

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0:00.0	Welcome to another episode of Love Life. I'm your host, Matthew Hussie. Every few
0:06.6	days I'll be bringing you a new episode filled with practical advice you can
0:11.1	use right away to improve all of your relationships, romantic, family, friends,
0:16.7	career and most importantly the relationship you have with yourself. If you've
0:22.0	been listening to me for a while please do me a favor and leave me a five-star
0:26.3	review in iTunes. In the iTunes app or on your desktop just look up the show,
0:31.5	click on ratings and reviews and then click right a review. I'm not asking for
0:37.4	the ego boost it's simply because the highest rated programs get the most
0:41.4	visibility in iTunes and together we can help reach more women by helping
0:46.0	them find the show. Thank you so much for your help. Let's start the show.
0:51.7	Very excited to have a caller coming in today. Her name is Tiffany and I believe
0:57.8	she's on the line now. Are you there Tiffany? I am. Hi, Matt. I'm such a huge fan of yours.
1:03.2	Oh thank you so much. So tell me your question. Okay well my question basically is
1:09.7	when should you have the exclusivity talk? Essentially I've been seeing this guy
1:14.4	for a while now and things are going really well. We did meet online and I know
1:18.9	he's still active on the website where we met but we're sexually active. We
1:23.6	enjoy each other's company. I'm just afraid of having to talk and ruining like
1:27.6	what could potentially be a really good thing because I'm not sure if he sees
1:32.4	us as going towards something amazing or just being friends with benefits at
1:36.2	this point. I'm not afraid of the rejection side but I don't want to waste my
1:41.0	time if it's not going to go anywhere. Let me ask you a question. Have you actually
1:45.5	at any point in the last two months made it clear that you want a relationship?
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