The Most Attractive Way to Initiate (and Exit) a Conversation

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 26 February 2016

⏱️ 6 minutes

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Summary

When you’re out socially, one of the worst feelings is to be approached and feel like you’re “trapped” in a conversation. Today, I have some great tips, both for body language and what you can actually say, to gracefully enter and politely exit a conversation. I’ll even share a trick that allows you to approach a group of guys and then turn the tables, leaving them wanting more so they are desperate to reengage with you!

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0:00.0	Matthew Hussey here with Love Life. Have you ever wondered whether you should date more
0:06.5	than one guy at a time? Every dating expert seems to have a different opinion on this.
0:12.2	But what the guys really think about a woman who keeps her options open? Well I'll tell
0:17.4	you how to get the answer at the end of the show. First, let's get into today's episode.
0:27.4	This episode is about people who stay in conversations for too long. I was out with a couple of
0:34.9	friends and we were standing in a bar and we were talking and having a very in-depth conversation
0:41.6	about something and two women came over and started talking to us. But what happened over the next
0:50.6	15 to 20 minutes is these people, well they even when they first came over, they began by
0:56.7	standing there and completing our circle. You know when you stand in a kind of crescent moon,
1:03.2	they came and completed it. Now when that happens, I know ladies, you're listening to this,
1:09.4	I know guys do this to you too. They'll come over, they'll stand there in a certain stance that
1:15.6	says, I'm here for a while. I'm not planning on going anywhere and I know when that happens to you,
1:22.4	you lose your ability to enjoy the conversation itself with him because you're too busy analyzing
1:29.3	whether you're whether you're going to be able to get away or not. And this is key in conversation,
1:35.0	you never want to make someone feel like you're never going to leave because then they can't
1:39.7	enjoy the conversation in the moment. When you go over, you want to turn your body language
1:45.5	out slightly. Not so much that it looks ridiculous, but you're not you're not facing
1:52.6	directly at them, looking at them, you're slightly angled away and you can still turn your head
1:59.0	to look at them, but what it says is I'm not necessarily so invested in this right now that I
2:05.2	won't leave. A nice thing to do by the way is to speak to someone for 30 seconds or a minute
2:12.4	and then turn a little bit and keep talking to your friend in a conversation between the two of you
2:17.6	because at that point, these people are standing there near you, they have proximity,
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