Should You Offer to Pay on a Date?
Love Life With Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey
4.7 • 3.1K Ratings
🗓️ 24 February 2016
⏱️ 6 minutes
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Summary
It’s a delicate dance… You’ve had a romantic dinner with the guy you really like and then the check comes to the table. Do you reach for it? Feign searching in your handbag for your wallet? Let him pick up the tab so you don’t bruise his ego? And if you’ve been dating for a while, does this change the dynamic?
I’ll share the secret thoughts men have on this issue that they would never tell you, and give you specific advice of when and how you should “treat” your man.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Love Life. I'm Matthew Hussie. Now do you ever feel like you're stuck in a rut? |
| 0:08.0 | We all do from time to time. The problem is just going through the motions, cuts off our ability to grow and increase our happiness in life. |
| 0:16.8 | Now what would happen if you actually began living each and every day with purpose? |
| 0:22.4 | Let me tell you, it is possible to transform your life from ordinary to extraordinary. |
| 0:27.2 | And it doesn't have to take months or years, but just a matter of days. |
| 0:32.1 | Stick with me till the end of the show and I'll tell you exactly how to do it. |
| 0:39.0 | We are getting into the habit of taking some questions now. We want to hear from some people |
| 0:42.6 | live and find out what they want to know. And I believe we have Rachel on the line today. |
| 0:48.0 | Rachel, are you there? I am here. Hi. It's such a pleasure to have you on the show. |
| 0:53.4 | Thank you for having me. You're very welcome. |
| 0:55.0 | What's your question? |
| 0:56.0 | Well, I want to know, so I've been dating this guy for a few weeks now and there's always |
| 1:02.5 | that awkward moment when the girl feels like they should start paying. |
| 1:07.0 | So I just want to know at what point do we start insisting on paying for the guy. Have you offered to pay so far? Not yet. Not yet. And how long have you been dating, did you say? It's been a few weeks. A few weeks. Okay. So you haven't really offered yet, but what feeling is it in you that means you'd like to start? Or would you not like to start? |
| 1:28.0 | I just feel like I want to treat him to something. You know, he's been so nice at the beginning. |
| 1:33.7 | And I feel like I should start to treat him. Okay. I think that's really lovely and really commendable, |
| 1:39.6 | because I know a lot of people don't do that. So here's the thing. You can always offer even in the beginning. |
| 1:44.9 | Just because you offer it doesn't mean you have to insist. So now that you're a few weeks in, |
| 1:50.0 | I'm sure he would really appreciate it if you started offering in certain situations. |
| 1:55.7 | Because one of the big fears for a guy, which truthfully were incredibly insecure to admit, |
| 2:03.3 | is that in the beginning, if the woman isn't offering a guy, which truthfully we're incredibly insecure to admit, is that in the beginning, |
| 2:07.3 | if the woman isn't offering at all, we start worrying that she'll never offer. |
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