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Healthy By Heather Brown

The Marriage Reset You Didn’t Know You Needed: Enneagram With Christa Hardin EP 147

Healthy By Heather Brown

Heather Brown

Education, Christianity, How To, Health & Fitness, Religion & Spirituality, Mental Health

5.0 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 26 May 2026

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

Christa Hardin, an expert on the Enneagram, joins Heather Brown to explore how personality types influence marriage, intimacy, and personal growth. They discuss the three core instincts—self-preservation, social, and sexual—and how understanding these can improve relationships and self-awareness. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood by your spouse, struggled to connect, or wondered why certain needs feel so important to you (but not to them), this conversation will bring so much clarity. In this episode, they talk about the three core instincts (self-preservation, one-to-one, and social), how they show up in everyday life and relationships, and how understanding them can completely change the way you approach your marriage.In this conversation, they will also get honest about:
  • Why date nights matter more than you think
  • What might actually be behind a lack of desire in marriage
  • The role of hormones, mental load, and communication
  • How to create deeper connection (emotionally, spiritually, and physically)
  • A faith-based perspective on intimacy and protecting your marriage
Christa brings both wisdom and practical tools from her 20+ years of working with couples, and this episode is packed with takeaways you can apply right away.

00:00 Introduction to Christa and the Enneagram
01:05 Christa's background and credibility
02:16 Understanding the three core instincts
03:58 How instincts influence marriage dynamics
06:32 Different types and their expressions in relationships
09:09 Enneagram and intimacy in the bedroom
12:27 Biblical views on sexuality and purity culture
15:14 Impact of culture and social media on sexuality
18:03 Balancing the types and instincts in marriage
22:13 Using AI and technology responsibly in relationships
28:57 Common Enneagram pairings and marriage dynamics
31:08 Christa's resources and where to find her
32:58 Christa's personal reset and self-care tips

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0:00.0

Hey y'all and welcome to the Healthy by Heather Brown podcast, where I encourage you in healthy mind, body, and spirit through my Sunday reset.

0:08.8

Let's get into it.

0:14.3

Okay, so y'all, Krista and I literally have been rapid fire back and forth and I was like, whoa, stop.

0:19.4

We got to hit record because this is good.

0:21.8

And I don't know what we're talking about. So we got to just educate the girl gang. So, Krista, welcome the show. We're so glad to have you. Oh, my gosh. Thank you so much. It is such a joy, Heather. You are awesome. I love your show and your Instagram. I'm so happy to be here. You're so kind. So, Kristen, I actually just wrapped a show. I was on her show, so y'all will have to go check it out. We will link it in the show notes, all the things. So make sure you beep off over there next. I talked a lot about the Sunday restep, post-prime depression, all the things. And I want to give a little bit of a, I guess, if you are not familiar with the Enneagram, we are going to deep dive some

0:55.9

things today that if you don't have a baseline on what the Enegram is, number one, go follow

1:00.3

Krista because she'll teach you everything you need to know.

1:02.5

But you can also go back to my show to episode 56, Brittany Thomas of Enegram explained,

1:08.1

and then 105 Ian Morgan Crone were both on the show and they've talked

1:11.6

about Enneagram and how it relates to us as women and believers and even the controversy behind

1:18.0

it for Christians and whether it's okay or whether it's not all the things. So if you have

1:22.0

questions, go back there to start. But, Krista, let's jump in with what you and I were just

1:26.8

talking about for a baseline.

1:29.1

Krista's a seven, I'm a three, and tell them first of all what those two mean and then tell

1:35.3

them what you were just trying to explain to me about the subset that I'd never heard of

1:38.4

before.

1:39.3

Oh, I love it.

1:40.4

Okay, thanks, guys.

1:41.3

And I love that you already had some ground work with Enneagram.

1:44.8

And of course, it's just a tool, one of the many amazing marriage and family tools God can use. And if it's not for you, it's not for you. But to have this opportunity to say, hey, let's each know what our gifts are. that is cool.

1:58.0

And so I love that you're a three truth teller.

1:59.9

I was noticing that on my pod,

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