One of the things that I find that we do in relationships, strong connections with people,

is that we are doing a trade-off with our issues and our traumas.

We are giving people the pile of rubble that we have in dumping them off on them.

We are looking at our wounds and saying that they are not healed, but also

cutting the people who are close to us. You know, it is the baggage in which we carry that becomes

too heavy for those who don't want to hold ours in the first place. We want people to be there

for us to stand firm in their love, but we are not equipped with the understanding that sometimes

our load is way too heavy and it's not their responsibility to carry.

Many times in relationships, we don't often look at the things that we are burdening people with.

There's this acceptance that you are supposed to accept all of me and while I'm working on me you are to stay

but what happens when an unheeled person is with a healed person that healed person sees the

unhealingness out of you and like many times many people want to help the other person but it becomes too much and then

there's a separation there if you've ever found yourself in a situation where you realize that

your burdens are too heavy your grievances are too much you have unheeled unresolved issues

i implore you to listen a little bit to this

message. Many of us understand that a lot of the unheeled things that we are dealing with also is a

connection to this missing of love altogether. There is no strength in the love in which we feel for ourselves.

And so many times we look for others to make us whole. We have broken pieces and therefore

we think that some would carry the pieces and put them together and we would be all right.

But when we think about this, the broken pieces,

they lie on the floor and it is impossible if you think about glass, how it shatters on the

floor for you to pick up every single piece, put them together and it looked like what it was.

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