The LET THEM Theory Will Change Your Life

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Violet Benson

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🗓️ 27 February 2025

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

BBC is BACK, baby! Welcome back to Benson Book Club—your monthly deep dive into books that actually hit. Every fourth week, we break down a chapter that changes the game and today, we’re cracking open The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins.

“Your energy is better spent on what you can control: YOU.” – Mel Robbins

Translation? Stop trying to control people who don’t text back, don’t show up, or don’t give you what you want. LET THEM. And then? Watch your life get so much easier.

This episode covers:

Why chasing people is a waste of time
Why You’re Exhausted Trying to Control People – The #1 mistake we all make when we try to “fix” or “convince” others. (Spoiler: It never works.)
How to Stop Taking Things Personally – When someone ghosts, disrespects you, or doesn’t show up the way you want—here’s how to instantly stop giving a f*ck.
The Freedom of LETTING THEM – What happens when you stop chasing, stop forcing, and just let people do whatever they want? (Hint: Your life gets 100x easier.)
Your Energy is YOURS—Take It Back – You don’t need their approval. You don’t need closure. You need to focus on YOURSELF.
The Magic of The LET THEM and Let Me Theory – The second you apply this, you’ll start feeling lighter, happier, and completely unbothered.

If you’re tired of overthinking, over-explaining, and over-giving—this episode is for YOU.

Hit play, and let’s talk about it. 🎧🔥 #LetThem #AlmostAdulting #MelRobbins

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0:00.0	If you've been secretly hoping someone else would come and rescue you, fix your problems, pay your bills, create a social life, heal your wounds, change into your dream partner, and motivate you to be your best, then I'm sorry, but it's not going to happen. No one is coming. And anytime you spend blaming other people, waiting for permission or an invitation, it's wasted. Those days they're over. Your let me era is here.
0:22.5	It's file events and your favorite meme queen and the big sit you didn't ask for, but
0:26.7	need a welcome to almost adulting.
0:30.6	Are you ready?
0:36.6	Hello and welcome back to a brand new episode of Dun Dun Dun Dun.
0:43.3	No, not the voice, but BBC.
0:46.6	It is Benson Book Club.
0:48.9	I am your host of the podcast called Almost Adulting.
0:53.2	This is what you were listening to. And I am your
0:55.9	big sister, your host, your wife, your twin, your husband, blah, blah, blah, everything in between.
1:01.4	I'm everything that you've ever needed. Don't ever forget that. Diallieta. I give you that
1:06.1	tough love. You mean I want to hear, but best believe you're going to need. And today I want to
1:09.5	welcome you back to another brand new episode of BBC.
1:12.6	It's at time of the month, the fourth week of every month I give you these amazing episodes
1:18.0	where I share with you where I summarize chapters from some of my favorite books where we get
1:23.2	to learn, grow, or fall asleep together.
1:26.2	Just kidding, you never fall asleep.
1:27.7	But it's an honor of me writing a book this year.
1:30.7	Hopefully, I'll be able to finish this year and it will come out the first quarter of next year.
1:36.3	So in honor of my book coming out next year and you buying it and reading it, we have Benson Book Club, the fourth week of every month.
1:46.8	And this month, I want to close our month with the Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins.
1:55.0	This book has become very popular since it came out.
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