Hi, this is Janet Lansferi. Welcome to Unruffled. Well, this is a treat for me. I'm going to be

responding to a response that I received from the parent that I was trying to help last week

in the episode called Demanding, Stressed and Aggressive, What's Happened to My Gentle Child.

Her son has been frustrated, stressed, and aggressive, what's happened to my gentle child. Her son has been frustrated, stressed out, explosive, aggressive, aggressive sometimes. She just had another baby.

There's an older sister as well who is also a strong personality like this boy is,

but he's the one that's been struggling.

My sense was a lot of it may have to do with this huge adjustment in the family of there being a new baby,

because I know how that throws children into a tailspin sometimes.

The gist of the advice I offered this parent was I believed that this little

boy needed to feel the parent's arms around him figuratively. Yes, you're behaving in all these

ways that we're not going to let you behave. We're going to do what best we can to stop you,

but we're not against you. We know this isn't your fault. We see you're going

through something, and we want to help you stop. So one of the ways I suggested they might try

to do that is to have a family meeting because I thought maybe they could all talk about how

she could help them when he's feeling like kind of that

explosive mood that makes him want to lash out. And really, the point of it wasn't about,

we're going to find this solution that makes it all smooth and make it all work. Absolutely not,

because it's just not going to be smooth during these transitional times

when everybody's struggling a bit to make the adjustment. So there's no way it's going to be

smooth and he's suddenly going to turn a corner and be this perfect angel. But the point is

to give him that message by saying, we're going to all work together to

help you in these situations and make it work for all of us.

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