There are some exceptions, but chances are you were attracted to your spouse because he or she has a very different personality from you.

I don't know why. We tend to be attracted to opposites. Why is that? Well, maybe it's connected to your birth order.

I'm John Fuller, joined by Dr. Greg

Smalley and his wife, Aaron, who oversee our marriage department, and focus president Jim Daly

spoke with Dr. Kevin Lehman about birth order. Now, Dr. Lehman wrote a book about this. He speaks

extensively about birth order, and he is a gas. He's so fun to listen to.

Here he is addressing personality types based on when you were born.

What I want to do is apply this to marriage.

So in order to give the audience kind of an understanding, just hit first born, middle, and last born.

Well, let's take Mrs. Uppington, my pet name from my lovely wife that I've been married to for

56 years in a row.

She is a firstborn, firstborn.

I can do something very simply like turn left, and she has a commentary on that about how I could just go three blocks further, hit the

interstate, and I could save 58 seconds. Thank you for that helpful information. I'm kind of with

her. And so firstborn children are reliable, conscientious, they're list makers. If not the list makers

who are they making a physical list, it's in their head.

They know exactly how life ought to be.

They don't like surprises.

They're planners and organizers.

Hence, there are aircraft pilots, the astronauts and outer space of the first 23, 21 firstborn children.

The other two are only children who are their psychological cousins, not a middle or a baby in sight.

Not many lastborns in the astronaut program.

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