We all think differently, and the benefit of marriage is your spouse can be a reminder of that

on an ongoing basis. I'm John Fuller, along with my focus colleagues, Aaron and Greg Smalley.

And Aaron, let's go back to the idea of birth order that we explored last time.

That tends to have a bigger influence on personality than a lot of us expect, and it shows up and often causes a little bit of communication difficulty, maybe some conflict.

Absolutely.

I would say almost every couple that comes in at some level is struggling that my spouse is different

than me. And without realizing it, oftentimes we're going, and I would like them to be like me.

We're not saying that. And maybe we're not even aware of that. But what an opportunity to recognize

God created my husband very different than me, and he created me

very different than my husband. And those differences are actually a good thing when we see them

through that lens that we can appreciate. Greg brings so much balance to our family, to our

marriage, as well as I do. As we talked about earlier, our differing birth orders, that I bring a little bit of spice

to our relationship, a little spontaneity where Greg is very scheduled and he likes to go to the

same restaurant, the same day of the week.

Because you know what you're getting.

You can be confident.

He flies the same airline,

sits in the same seat. He rents from the same rental car facility, stays at the same brand of

hotel. So it's very routine oriented. I appreciate that now because it brings some routine to

my life too, because I have the propensity to be a little bit more

scattered. That only took 33 years to arrive at the spot. So well done us. Well, I appreciate

that. And as a firstborn married to a middle, again, I just so appreciate Dr. Lehman.

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