Hello, good morning and welcome back to Morning. I'm your host, Lan or Alana, and today's episode was actually prompted by a DM from one of you guys.

I got asked, can you please talk a little bit about how to spend time with yourself when

you don't love yourself?

I genuinely have tried reading, going on walks, meditating, journaling, tried positive

affirmations and still do not love myself, and I don't like spending time with myself.

And this really led me to think and question a lot of things because personally for as long

as I can remember I have always enjoyed and valued my time with myself but I do know I have friends

who hate doing it they don't do it they're're always around people, they're always around family,

friends, whoever, they're not really one to sit with themselves. And it led me to want to

research it more and kind of find out the psychology behind all of this. Like, why do some people

like spending time with themselves? Why do some people don't like this

listener like why is it so hard for her to do that and from a like a baseline perspective like

first thought is that when you are alone you were kind of forced to deal with any thoughts, feelings, emotions you may be

having about yourself or your life. And when you're with people, you are given a distraction from that.

You are distracted from your thoughts and feelings. You may acknowledge your feelings, but you don't

have to sit there with them in discomfort.

And I think that's kind of where it stems from.

I think as a 24-year-old thinking about this question is that the people like myself,

not that I'm perfect, I'm not always super comfortable with being by myself.

Obviously, it comes in waves.

But generally speaking, people who enjoy and see value in spending time alone

are comfortable with working through their thoughts and feelings and are curious about it and gain

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